When Smart Kids Struggle: Understanding Twice-Exceptional (2e) Learners
Many parents I work with come in feeling puzzled—and sometimes, a little worn out. Their child might build impressive LEGO designs or talk in-depth about the rules of a complex video game, but then break down when asked to write a simple paragraph. They may engage in deep, thoughtful discussions at the dinner table but leave their homework half-finished or forget to turn it in. Or perhaps they can take apart a toy or bike and immediately understand its inner workings, but struggle to recall what they learned in class that day.
These children are clearly bright—often even well above grade level in certain areas—but their brilliance doesn’t always show up in schoolwork or behavior. One parent said, “It’s like the teacher and I are talking about two different kids.” Another shared, “I keep hearing how capable she is, but she comes home crying almost every day.”
If this sounds familiar, you may be raising a twice-exceptional (2e) learner. These children are both gifted and face learning differences, attention challenges, or developmental hurdles. But it’s not always obvious, because their strengths and struggles can mask one another—or shift depending on the environment or task. The result is often a confusing mix of brilliance and difficulty.
In this post, I’ll walk through what it means to be a 2e learner, why these children are often misunderstood, and how a thoughtful evaluation can bring clarity to your child’s unique profile.
What Does Twice-Exceptional Mean?
A twice-exceptional (2e) child is one who is intellectually gifted but also has a learning, attention, or developmental challenge. This might include ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dysgraphia, or other conditions that impact their learning and daily functioning.
Parents often feel a bit lost in these situations. One minute, their child is solving complex problems or talking through intricate concepts like a mini expert. The next, they’re overwhelmed by something as simple as organizing their backpack or starting a homework assignment. Teachers might see moments of brilliance, but when a child struggles in other areas, they’re often misjudged as lazy or unmotivated. Families might find themselves questioning why a bright child needs extra support.
This rollercoaster of performance isn’t about defiance or laziness. It’s often a result of uneven development across cognitive, emotional, and behavioral areas. For example, a child might excel in verbal reasoning but struggle with memory or emotional regulation. Or, attention challenges or anxiety might cause them to shut down during seemingly simple tasks. These inconsistencies make it difficult for others to fully understand what’s going on underneath the surface.
The key to supporting 2e learners is recognizing that these fluctuations aren’t personal shortcomings—they are the result of the complex interplay between cognitive strengths and challenges. Understanding this dynamic allows parents to shift from frustration to a clearer, more compassionate view of their child’s experiences.
Common Signs of a Twice-Exceptional Profile
While there’s no single checklist for identifying a 2e learner, certain patterns often emerge. Here are a few that I see most frequently:
Strong verbal skills but difficulty with writing or spelling. Your child might be able to explain complex ideas verbally but struggle to put those ideas into written words.
Intense curiosity or deep knowledge in one area but challenges in others. A child might excel in math or science but have trouble with reading comprehension or organization.
High sensitivity to criticism, frustration, or sensory input. Many 2e children are more sensitive to feedback or the classroom environment, which can lead to emotional outbursts.
Trouble with focus, organization, or completing tasks. Simple tasks may feel overwhelming, and your child might often feel distracted or scattered.
A large gap between what they know and what they can show in school. Your child might understand the material well but struggle to demonstrate that knowledge in the classroom.
Feeling bored, anxious, or misunderstood in traditional classrooms. 2e learners can feel out of place, either because they’re not being challenged enough or because their struggles aren’t addressed.
Often, these children don’t neatly fit into the typical boxes for gifted programs or special education services. Their strengths can hide their struggles, or their challenges can mask their strengths, leading to missed opportunities for appropriate support.
The Power of a Comprehensive Evaluation
If you’ve ever felt confused by your child’s ups and downs, a comprehensive evaluation can provide much-needed clarity. Instead of focusing only on surface behaviors, an in-depth assessment looks at the full scope of your child’s cognitive, emotional, and developmental functioning.
A thorough evaluation helps to:
Uncover hidden strengths. Many 2e children are gifted in areas like verbal reasoning, problem-solving, or creative thinking—but these talents may not always be visible in everyday tasks. A comprehensive assessment can help identify and highlight these strengths.
Pinpoint areas of challenge. Whether it’s working memory, attention, anxiety, or executive function difficulties, an evaluation can clarify how specific challenges are affecting your child’s school performance, relationships, and emotional regulation.
Identify how strengths and challenges interact. 2e children’s strengths and struggles often coexist in complex ways, and a well-rounded evaluation can reveal how they affect each other.
Differentiate between giftedness and other conditions. It’s important to distinguish between a child’s giftedness and the impact of conditions like ADHD, Autism, or learning disabilities. Understanding how these factors overlap is key to developing the right support plan.
Provide personalized recommendations. A comprehensive evaluation results in concrete suggestions for classroom accommodations, home strategies, and therapy, helping you create a holistic support plan for your child.
Using Assessment Results to Build Tailored Support Plans for 2e Children
Comprehensive testing can help uncover both the strengths and challenges of twice-exceptional (2e) learners. With that clarity, families and educators can create a truly customized support system.
In school settings, this often includes formal learning plans, such as:
504 Plans for classroom accommodations
IEPs (Individualized Education Programs) for students who qualify for special education services, including academic, behavioral, and therapeutic supports
GIEPs (Gifted Individualized Education Plans) in some states, designed to support advanced learners through enrichment and acceleration
Dual-identified plans that blend gifted education and special education services, acknowledging both exceptionalities
School-based support strategies drawn from these plans may include:
Differentiated instruction that offers depth in strong subjects and scaffolding in areas of challenge
Alternative exam formats (e.g., oral presentations instead of written essays)
Flexible classroom environments that allow for movement, sensory breaks, alternative seating, or quiet workspaces
Executive functioning support, such as help with organization and planning
Social-emotional support through school counselors and peer groups
Outside of school, families can foster support that nurtures the whole child, such as:
Enrichment opportunities like maker spaces, STEM clubs, music lessons, creative writing groups, or coding camps that allow your child to pursue passions and feel competent
Therapeutic supports like ongoing work with an OT, working with an outside mental health counselor, speech-language pathologist, or learning specialist
Parent coaching or parental support groups to help navigate advocacy, burnout, or big emotions
Executive functioning tools to support homework routines, time management, and motivation
Mind-body tools like mindfulness apps, sleep stories, movement-based therapies (like yoga or martial arts), or sensory-informed play
Safe adults or mentors who "get" your child and provide encouragement outside the school setting
Most importantly, though, it’s essential to actively nurture your child’s self-esteem. Many 2e learners feel misunderstood or out of sync with their peers, and over time, this can lead to frustration or self-doubt. Helping your child understand how their brain works—and teaching them how to advocate for what they need—lays the foundation for lifelong confidence, curiosity, and self-awareness. With the right combination of support, 2e children don’t just cope—they thrive.
For more support and resources tailored to gifted and twice-exceptional learners, visit the Davidson Institute.
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